Category Archives: Sacred Mundane

“Do you like it?” I pointed at my homemade artwork–a anthropologie-inspired sweater mosaic perched on the mantle–and looked at my friend for her response.  She nodded and shrugged her shoulders.

“Do you like it?”  She responded. I stared at her.

Did I like it? That question caught me off guard.  Later that day I thought back to 7th grade and remembered wearing a rather unusual skirt to school one day. My grandma had made it, and I couldn’t decide whether it was stunning or horrid.  It would take some work to pull it off, but I thought it was pretty cool.  I went for it.

Of course it took all of two minutes for me to see the verdict on the faces of the girls at school.  A glance down, eyebrows up, look at me, smirk. It was dumb. The skirt had failed.  I went home at lunch and changed my clothes.

Later that day a friend, a true friend, had chided me: “Why’d you change?  Don’t let what other people think make you change your clothes. If you like the skirt, wear it.”

Did I like the skirt?

Do I like the my sweater mosaic?

How often do I have to ask a hundred opinions before I decide what I think?

Are my opinions simply the sum total of others’?

While I’ve grown out my 7th grade skirt, I haven’t quite grown out of my over-dependence on other’s opinions.  And I have a feeling I’m not alone.  I recently received a text from a friend: “Can I come over? Formal event–need opinion on dress”.  I’m happy to give my input, but really she’s the only one who needs to like what she wears. Right?

Perhaps our over-dependence on other’s opinions is harmless enough when it comes to skirts and art, but my hunch is that it creeps down past the superficial and begins to take root in our hearts.

Am I okay?

The same question that haunts us haunted our feminine ancestors thousands of years ago. In Genesis 30, sisters Rachel and Leah are desperately and miserably competing for their husband Jacob’s love and approval by seeing who can bear the most children. Leah takes the lead while Rachel is barren, so Rachel gets her maid to bear a few to even the score. Then Leah becomes barren and panics, so she gets her maid to bear more children with Jacob. And after that child is born Leah announces,

“Happy am I! For women have called me happy.” (30:13)

Hmm.  Happy am I. Why?

For women have called me happy.

Are you convinced? Neither am I.  I can almost picture the scene.  Anxious and driven by insecurity and competition, Leah makes one final attempt to win the affection of the husband who clearly prefers her sister. Deep down she knows the truth.   After resorting to the unthinkable (giving her maid to her husband!), she insists that she is happy because other women have called her happy.

Modern day translation?

I’m okay because other women say I’m okay.

Dear sisters, that is not the truth.

You are not merely the sum total of other people’s opinions.

Your skirt has value if you like wearing it.

Your artwork has value if you like looking at it.

You have value because you are wonderfully made in the image of God.

You are not happy if women call you happy. And you are not worthless if women call you worthless.  We will be called both at some point, and our defining moment is what we choose to believe.

When we dismiss our opinions, we dismiss our worth. When we dismiss our worth, we dismiss the genius of the One who created us. The One who called you more than happy.

The one who called you His own.

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In what ways have you allowed the opinions of others to trample your own?  In what ways have you allowed your worth to merely be the sum total of other’s opinions? Ask God today to show you His opinion of who you are.

Today I got a glorious gift from my husband: A day alone.  I’m fighting a cold (and losing) and the house is showing tomorrow, and I think he could see in my eyes that I was just about the throw the kids out the window (bless them).  I wanted a fresh start and some time to think and really wanted to clean the bathrooms without any little monkeys hanging on my legs.  So he took the kids out to my parents’ place for the day and I was left in glorious silence.  I scrubbed and scoured, swept and sorted, and spent four hours with my laptop writing and sipping peppermint tea.  Now that hasn’t happened since … well, since I had kids.

So I love fresh starts and I’m all geared up to figure out some New Year Resolutions, and even found a great post at Simple Mom for asking questions and helping establish healthy reasonable goals for 2011.

But first I thought we’d better head back to 2010.  My goal was a 1950s housewife.  Let’s give a quick look and see how we did. If you wrote resolutions, why don’t you go flip through your journal or search for the document or scrounge up the napkin you wrote them on from the bottom of your nightstand drawer. Let’s take a quick look at what worked, what didn’t, and why.  Here are mine, with comments:

1. Take kids grocery shopping with me. Yup!  I am pleased to say that my kids actually behave in grocery stores now. Hallelujah!

2. Eating dinner together. Mm… sometimes.  We’re getting better, but Jeff’s schedule can vary a lot so sometimes this isn’t realistic.  We do eat breakfast together, though, every morning and make that our special time to pray together and talk together.  I’m feeling like that’s the best option for us right now.  As the kids get older I do still want to make dinner together a goal, though.

3. Make the bed. Yes! I do make the bed! Woohoo! I know, that was a pathetic goal but at least it gave me a victory.

4. Have the house straightened up when Jeff gets home. Yes!  We have done this too. Not perfectly, but pretty much every day, and we’ve got a routine where the kids clean up from 4:30-5pm, then they get to watch a video from 5-5:30pm so I can make dinner in peace, then the kids and I eat at 5:30. The video is a perfect reward for doing all their cleaning, and Jeff comes home to a clean house, happy wife, and dinner. At least most days… 🙂

5. Praying together every morning. Well… we all four pray (Heidi prays in her heart, silently 😉 together at the table at breakfast, but Jeff and I haven’t been very consistent about praying together as a couple.  So, there’s growth and room to grow!  I think I’ll put this one again for next year.

6. Have a plan every day. Again, there’s been growth but certainly room to grow. I am definitely seeing our need for a bit more structure and routine. So that’s a main area to focus for 2011.  I’m still working on (Re)Learning to be Fun!

I’d love to hear what some of your goals were–either reached or unreached.  What worked? What didn’t? What were some of your victories? What did you learn??  I’d love to hear. And happy new year to you.

December 15th marks one year since we began this, the Cash, Coupons, and Envelope system.

It feels so good to finish, doesn’t it? I love fresh starts, but fresh starts are twice as delicious when you’ve just finished the last chapter, and finished it well.

Last night I had the wonderful honor of sitting at Multnomah Biblical Seminary graduation and watching my husband receive his Master’s degree.   It has been a long 5 1/2 year journey for both of us, amidst working full time, giving birth to two kids, living with my parents, commuting, ministry, you name it. It’s been a wild ride and I am SO thankful that we did it.  And ahhhh it feels so good to finish.

So as Jeff finishes this leg of the race, I have to take a second and celebrate a few things:

Thank you for the things that go ungraded:

• Standing neck-deep in a “live” sewer line in the pouring rain, covered in mud (and other stuff!), doing your construction job faithfully day after day, month after month, so we could pay for seminary.
• Getting up at 5am every morning, getting an early start at work so we could leave early for class.
• Putting aside your studies to snuggle the kids, change a diaper, tuck into bed.
• Being willing to live with your in-laws 🙂 so we could afford to keep going!
• Giving up your beloved Jeep when baby came along.
• Camping in the dorms during your week-long intensive class so I could have the car.
• Making innumerable between-class runs to the quickie-mart to get me crackers (or whatever I craved) to stave off morning sickness!
• Making oatmeal for us every morning, even when you leave too early to eat it yourself!
• Living out what you study and learn by the way you love me and lead our family.

Yes, I’m glad he has his degree. I’m glad he finished. I’m glad that from now on we might actually have date-nights that don’t include reading theology books and writing research papers! 🙂  But most of all I’m thankful for the things that go ungraded. Thank you, my husband, for finishing well in every way.  I love and respect you.

This weekend I’m so blessed to have the opportunity to teach at the Oregon Women of the Word conference down in Medford, Oregon. This week was, let’s just say, hectic, preparing amidst some other things. But this little moment showed me how God can use even the chaos to demonstrate His love:

Thursday was crazy. We had an extended-family crisis that threw many things up in the air. I was cleaning the house and making meals for the kids while I’d be gone, and I needed to work on my notes for the conference. In particular, I needed to shorten one message, and was praying about what to cut out, as I had one certain part in mind that I was debating about whether it fit.  After I finally finished the dishes I turned around to find that Heidi had discovered my bright red marker and taken to scribbling all over my notes. ARGH!   I went over, picked them up, to discover that she had scribbled into oblivion the entire section that I was praying about whether or not to cut out. I couldn’t even read it.

I had to smile.  Guess that answers that prayer!

Moments as a Ministry Mommy. 🙂

So can I just say that I’m thrilled at how many of you are gung-ho to start the Food Stamp challenge–whole, organic, healthy, seasonal food for our families for about $2/day/person, or less. So here are what I think are a few key jumpstart tips.

1. Simplify. Remember, eating healthy is not expensive. Snacks and Convenience are expensive.  If there is any way to simmer down your grocery list to as few items as possible, you are well on your way. Here is a sample of my grocery shopping this month. All I’ll need as the month goes on is some more fresh fruits and veggies, but this is the bulk of it:

• Winco (for the  month):  In Bulk: Oats, whole wheat flour, brown rice, black beans, pinto beans, lentils, garbanzo beans, almonds, whole-wheat pastas, brown sugar, evaporated cane juice, barley, and raisins.  Also: Coconut milk, yams and onions (don’t need to be organic). Oh, and a few fruit leather because Dutch was with me. Total: $50.57.
• Fred Meyer: 21 lbs. of organic fuji apples ($.78/lb this week!), bananas, Tillamook cheese ($3.99 this week w/ coupon!), organic milk (on sale this week for 1/2 gal. for $2.30), cage-free eggs. Total: $28.31.
• Costco: 5 lbs. each of organic green beans, organic peas, organic corn, plus 5 Liters olive oil (which will last forever). Total $34. (Thanks Dani!)
• Albertson’s: I happened to have some good coupons so I snagged organic blue-corn tortilla chips, dish soap and laundry detergent all for $4.02.
• So that’s $116.90 so far, so I think we should be good. I have plenty of meat and peanut butter leftover from last month.

2. Bread for pennies: I was just talking to a friend last night about how expensive healthy bread is. Don’t buy it!  It’s so easy to make. If you don’t have a bread machine you can buy one for $50 and it’ll pay for itself in a few months.  (This book is also SO helpful, for making everything from hamburger buns (yum!) to  pizza dough to cinnamon rolls.) Cook it in the oven, not the machine–so cheap and yummy!  Easiest recipe one earth, foolproof:

• 5/8 c. milk
• 1/2 c. water
• 3 TB sugar
• 1 1/2 TB butter
• 1 1/2 tsp. salt
• Then on top–3 cups flour (any kind, I use whole wheat), then dig a little well in the top and put 2 tsp yeast (yeast is super cheap to buy in big containers at Costco). Do dough cycle, then dump it onto greased cookie sheet, bake at 350 for 25 minutes. Yum! For pennies per loaf.

3. Challenge yourself to go without. The Beans & Rice challenge really showed me how addicted to sugar I am. I missed eating sweet things!  It was so helpful though because it kind of re-set my sweet tooth. For example today I was marveling at how peas are so sweet, they taste like candy! (Ok not quite). But I do think we can slowly wean ourselves off of things if we try.  I still put sugar in my tea though…   *sigh*

Happy grocery shopping!  I’ve also heard that the Green Grocer in Oregon City has some great local, whole, organic foods. Haven’t checked it out yet, though.  Send along your tips, ideas, recipes!  And don’t forget to thank God for every bite!

James 2:1-13 A New Way to See

Last week we ended by looking at how true religion, a true relationship with God, expresses itself through purity in our speech, through social concern, and moral purity. I hope all of you had the chance to visit the RL exhibit, and hear Joel’s message this weekend– This week James takes this idea and brings it a little closer to home, in fact he brings it really to our very doorstep.

Becauseh before we can deal with this issue of social concern, we must have God give us a new way to see. Before we can love people, serve people, give to people, share the love of Christ and the truth of the gospel with people, we must have new eyes—we must see them as God sees. Our belief is what fuels our actions, always. To change the way we act we must change the way we see. The reason we don’t take up the cause of the poor? Because we don’t believe they are worth it. If we are to have God light a fire in our hearts for loving people, we must believe that they are worth loving. We must have new eyes to see them as God sees. Let’s jump into the text.

James 2:1-4 Read 1. Straightforward, ok. Partiality comes through Poor perspective. Now James brings it right to the doorstep of our church. Read v. 2-4.

Now, from the perspective of our main character, what is the difference between these two men—what does it say? Exactly what data does he have as his criteria for his judgment. What is the only difference between the two? Clothes and accessories. Clothes. The difference between the two men was the clothes they were wearing.

1. Seeing as God sees means looking past appearances.

The Bible doesn’t talk all that much about clothes. We do. Don’t we? We have subscriptions to entire magazines devoted to clothes. Fashion in a multi-BILLION dollar industry. Meaning we spend millions of millions, billions and billions of dollars every year on pieces of fabric that we hang on our bodies and pieces of metal that hang from our ears, or bags we use to carry our gum. We have closets the size of some people’s homes, just to hold all of our clothes. And most of us store our out-of-season clothes in other closets! Now believe me I like clothes just as much as the next girl, and I too have a walk-in closet. We’re not saying today that you can’t wear nice clothes or take care of your appearance—in fact, we’re going to take a quick look at what the Bible does say about clothes and appearance. But part of being doers of the Word means that we what: Hold up God’s Word like a mirror (remember last week!), and take a good long look at what we’re wearing and why. Because we do everything that we do for a reason. There’s always a reason behind your actions, from what you ate for breakfast to what you wear to what car you drive to why you’re here, right? And if we’re going to be doers of the Word we first have to hold up that mirror of God’s Word and take a look. So let’s do that.

Now, when we get ourselves dressed and we do whatever we do to ourselves (and I’m certainly not advocating that we don’t do anything to ourselves!), we do so to take care of our… appearance. We want to be sure that our appearance is ok. Nothing wrong with that. But, would you agree that our world has become absolutely consumed with appearances. We will spend hundreds of dollars on jeans that make us look 3 ounces thinner. We will spend hundreds of dollars on shoes that are horrid to walk in! Why? Make our legs look longer. We will spend hundreds of dollars on a bag of all things, by a certain designer. Why? I don’t know, I still haven’t figured that one out. I’m really not trying to be snarky I’m just saying we gotta take a step back and say, “What on earth am I doing?!”

Poor perspective. When we live in this fallen world we are so prone to becoming engulfed in its world view, we don’t even realize our minds have been taken caprtive. And we never step back and say, “What on earth am I doing?” Our obsession with appearance is one of the areas where we are gotten so out of control, and history tells us that we will go to ridiculous lengths. And, I hope you will let me try to convince you that this epidemic obsession with appearnces is absolutely related to our topic of partiality today. Let me illustrate.

Chinese feet binding? For a THOUSAND years this was a trend. We talk about “classic” styles lasting a decade. This was a classic style. And, it began with the elite class, the rich, who emulated the beautiful tiny feet of these certain dancers in the Southern Tang dynasty. So women began binding their feet to make them appear smaller. Did they get smaller? No of course not. The result, women were crippled. The very feet that God gave us so we can walk, they ruined by vanity. Vanity knows no bounds. (Show x-ray.) We look at this and say that’s ridiculous. Which proves that fashion is arbitrary. Now again, please hear my heart. I think there is a place for fashion. Beauty is from God. The problem is that we’ve allowed this to take over our world, and next thing you know you’re got feet like that.

The Chinese aren’t the only ones, right? What about neck-rings? Many women from Asia and Africa begin putting neck rings on little girls as young as 2 years old to begin gradually lengthening one’s neck because they have one ideal of beauty—an elongated neck. These rings tilt the collarbone, and they can be very dangerous to remove because the neck muscles atrophy to such an extent that the weight of their heads can collapse their necks. They can’t drink from cups, only straws, cannot look at the sky.

Again, crazy. We’re far more subtle in our tummy tucks and face lifts and control spanx and push-up bras. Or, the fashion industry realizes they can’t actually mame and destroy women’s bodies with crushing feet or stretching necks, so we just do it all digitally, right? We’ll spend billions of dollars in the advertising industry to photoshop everything to sell an image, an appearance, that is false, so nobody gets hurt, right? The only people who get hurt are the millions of pre-teen and teen girls and women who believe that in order for them to be beautiful and accepted and lovely they have to look like that. And now we’re facing a new frightening trend. Eating disorder experts say they seeing a startling increase in cases of young girls as young as 5-6 years old. Instead of destroying girls’ feet and necks we’re destroying their hearts. Our hearts.

And when we continue to invest loads of time and energy and resources into appearances we are perpetuating a culture which is DRIVEN by—partiality. The word partiality, the Greek word prosopolepsia literally means, “receiving the face.” To “receive the face” is to make judgments and distinctions based on external considerations such as physical appearance, social status, or race. We might say that we shouldn’t judge by appearances but then we spend billions of dollars a year making sure that our appearance send the right message because deep down we know that we judge by appearances. And what does Jesus say about that? “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”(John 7:24) Judgment isn’t wrong, judging by appearances is wrong.

But when we invest billions of dollars into our appearance, we perpetuate the problem. (like shopping for old houses…)

The reason that all this appearance is important to us is that often appearance, fashion and appearance are status symbols, right? We live in world where physical beauty + wealth = value. We have designs on our purses, initials on our jeans, signature style of certain designers. In America, our display of status is more subtle, but it’s there. Oh it’s there.

So, Kari what’s this rant and rave about? So what if my jeans are designer and so what if I do like to wear a little status symbol on my back pocket? Look at the indictment of verse 4: have you not then made distinctions among yourselves.

The problem lies in that often the root of fashion, and the root of our obsession with appearance is to, what was it in verse 4? Make distinctions. We have sought to distinguish ourselves by the clothes that we wear. Distinguish simply means to mark as different of distinct. We’d like to set ourselves apart, or more specifically set ourselves into a certain group of people who wear these same exclusive items. Why do we flock after the styles of the celebrities? We want to distinguish ourselves into the same sphere of status, beauty that they are. We use appearances to make distinctions. Another intresting tidbit is that the Greek verb for make distinctions is DIAKRINO, and it is the same Greek word used in James 1:6 where it said the man who DOUBTS (DIAKRINO) is double-minded, unstable, tossed to and fro. Same word. Remember we said that to doubt there was to have a division of loyalties, same word as to make distinctions, or quite literally—to discriminate. Now it’s good when we are discriminating or discerning based on Godly judgment, right? But when we make distinctions or discriminate based on appearance, we are unstable, tossed to and fro, double-minded (Don’t be dipsychos!) In short, we make distinctions based on appearances so much because we value appearances so much. We have become foolish in our judgments. Instead of judging rightly, we have become consumed with making judgments based on appearance, based—like the man we read about in James 2—on clothing.

So briefly, how does God want us to be clothed? Let’s look briefly:

• 1 Peter 5:5 “Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another.” Now here’s another topic all to itself. Do we dress humbly? Do we put on humility or do we put on pride?
• Col. 3:14 “Above all these things put on love.”
• Specifically, we learned last year in 1 Peter 3:3-4 that we are to adorn ourselves not externally, with costly designer clothes, fancy jewelry, obsessing over our hair, but to adorn ourselves internally. And all the scriptures we just read are saying juts that, if you’re wondering how to beautify yourself, here it is. If you’re wondering what to wear, here you go. Using the language of our passage, we’re not to spend all of our time judging ourselves externally, we need to spend some time judging internally. Not judging appearances, but as Jesus said, judging rightly. When we become women who judge ourselves internally rather than externally, we will become godly women who just others rightly rather than externally.
• Fascinatingly, the last passage which talks about adorning externally also ties in the major theme that we covered last week, that we’ll cover next week, and that is the thrust of the enter book of James—good works. 1 timothy 2:9 says that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with fancy hair and gold and pearls or costly designer clothing, but what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. There it is. Since we do have to get dressed—dress modestly. But adornment? Let your good works adorn you. That’s what makes someone truly beautiful.
• Proverbs 31 woman of course is our beautiful example and we see these remarks: v.17: She dresses herself with strength, v.20 she opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hand to the needy, v. 22 her clothing is fine linen and purple, v.25 strength and dignity are her clothing. We are to dress with dignity because we are created in the image of God and our value and worth and beauty comes from him. We are not to dress in pride. (Another whole study there)

Looking back at our passage. The person’s sin was two fold. 1) made a judgment based on appearances. 2) He showed partiality, gave preferential treatment to the one whom he has judged (by appearances!) to be of higher status.

1. Seeing as God sees means refusing preferential treatment.

He made the poor man sit on the floor and gave the rich man the seat of honor. So the outward sin was that he gave preferential treatment to one man and disrespected the other man. But that was merely the result of an inward sin that had already occurred. It all started with judging by appearances.

Christ modeled in that He was not a respecter of persons (Matthew 22:16) as the King James says, which literally means “He does not look at people’s faces.” In my version it reads that Jesus is did not care about anyone’s opinion, for he was not “swayed by appearances.” This echoes what we know of God the Father who, in the OT, we read in 1 Samuel 16:7 “The Lord sees not as man sees; man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” Those of you familiar with the stories of King Saul and King David know that Saul was all about appearances, David was a man after God’s own heart. We looked up these verses in our homework:

• • Romans 2:11: God shows no partiality.
  • Ephesians 6:9: he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and that there is no partiality with him.
  • Colossians 3:25: 25For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality.

And in those we learned that God doesn’t show partiality. And this theme of partiality, and especially toward the poor, is intimately related to what we studied last week—our social concern for the orphan, the widow, the poor, the needy. Deuteronomy 10:17-18 connects these as well. We read “For the Lord your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great, the mighty, and the awesome god, who is not partial and takes no bribe. He executes justice for the fatherless and the widow, and loves the sojourner, giving him food and clothing.” If we are people given to partiality, we will never learn to love those who give us nothing in return. If we think a person’s value comes from their appearance, wealth, status, good personality—we will never be able to truly love people and see them as God sees. A person is valuable because he or she is made in the image of God. A person has dignity, worth, value, because they are image-bearers of our great and glorious God. If we don’t get that, we will never have our hearts broken for the poor, we will never be moved with compassion to truly help them, because the bottom line is we just do not think they are worth it. Instead, we have been perverted by the belief that the beautiful and successful are who really matter. We will never make any progress showing the world the love of Christ until we see people as God sees them.

[We will never be able to love, serve, give, take up the cause of the poor, until we learn to see them as God sees them, to quit making judgments based on appearances, to quit showing partiality to the rich and famous. A culture that is obsessed with success, fame, beauty, riches, wealth WILL NEVER REACH THE WORLD THAT GOD LOVES. If we are so star-struck we will never look down to see the poor, the needy, the broken. We’re too busy trying to make sure we set ourselves apart into the distinguished group of the world.

Again, back to our scenario in James. What’s happening is partiality. Now, this happens in the world, doesn’t it? I mean, in some ways it’s the basis of our airline seating, our season tickets to the Blazers! Those who are affluent get the best seats. Now that’s fine in the world of commerce, but what if that creeps into our churches? Church is general admission. But do think this can still happen, subtly, even in church?

And I would venture to say that if one of the Blazers walked into church, and right behind him came a frumpy short and squatty mom with unwashed hair, I would dare to say that they would be treated differently. We all are vulnerable to being star-struck or name-dropping or simply, as the King James puts it, being a “respecter of persons.” We behold the face, the clothes—we behold the name and the fame. And James is saying, it’s sin.

3. Seeing as God sees means we value people as image-bearers, not idols.

James 2:5-7 Let’s finish the paragraph. Read vv.5-7. In this context the rich were the very ones who were exploiting them, and yet they still showed them partiality! More specifically, verse 7—they were the ones who blasphemed the honorable name by which you were called. Ok, we have to say this: There is nothing wrong with admiring or respecting certain people—if we respect them for their respectable qualities. However, if we are adoring fans—showing respect and partiality—for those famous celebrities who do not honor the name of Christ, we are, according to James—doing wrong. This means we must be very careful who we are venerating. Lady Gaga is not who we are to be emulating! Now my purpose here is not to stomp on toes, but when we support, praise, venerate, emulate celebrities who blaspheme the name of our God, James says we are in sin. Celebrity worship is sin. MOST celebrities do not honor the name of Christ. (Like talking to a friend and purposefully praising someone else who I know slanders my friend) There is one God, and if we are lauding and praising and spending GOD”S MONEY to go see and support and applaud celebrities who blaspheme the name of our God, or who oppose all that is pure and godly, we are wrong ladies. We must repent of this. We must refuse to just slide along in the slime of pop culture. “Are they not the ones who blaspheme the honorable name by which you were called?” GOD’s NAME should be what we sing and shout and seek to make famous. Isaiah 26:8 says Yes, Lord … YOUR name and your renown are the desire of our hearts.

Let’s finish. Read. 8-9. Over all of this is love.

4. Seeing as God sees leads to loving as God loves.

When we love our neighbor as ourself we look past mere physical appearance or wealth, status. The world’s love says, I will love you as long as you are lovely, successful, as long as you make me feel good and you meet my standards. It’s a self-seeking love. True love, God’s love, seeks not its own (1 Cor. 13). True love, as we looked at last year, is desiring the greatest good for another person. True love shows no partiality.

Read 10-11. I believe James emphasizes the whole law because he is make a point that this little issue of partiality is not a little issue. It’s easy for us to think, “Oh I don’t steal or murder or gossip.” But yeah I reach out to the people who look successful, attractive, like they have their act together. But if we show partiality, we transgress the whole law. This places us all smack dab in the classification of “sinner.” DL Moody said it’s as if we are holding onto a 10-link chain, dangling over a precipice of doom below. It doesn’t matter if we break one link or 9 links, we fall to our destruction no matter what. And the purpose of this reminder is not to make us feel condemned, but to help us understand 1) the seriousness of the sin of partiality, and 2) the JOY of knowing that we are saved through the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross. He who knew no sin became sin for us that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. This passage reminds us that we’ve broken a link in the chain. We should be falling, plummeting to our eternal destruction. BUT GOD. Ephesians 2, but God, by grace we are saved through faith, and that not of ourselves, it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.

There’s no room for boasting at the end of this message is there?

James’ final exhortation: vv.12-13 Speak and act as those who are judged under the law of liberty. God’s law is a law which frees us to obey Him. It is an inner law which constrains us to follow Him, 2 Cor. 5:14. And while we will not be judged as unbelievers are judged, and while our eternal destination is secure—our works will be judged, when God gives rewards for what we have done here on earth. And Christians who’ve lived selfishly, showing no mercy to the needy but idolizing the rich and famous, will not receive mercy when rewards are given. Jesus said that with the “judgment you pronounce you will be judged, with the measure you use it will be measured to you” (Matthew 7:2). In other words, quite simply, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

See the way God sees, love the way God loves.

James 1:19-27 Doers of the Word.

Last week we talked about our Personal Faith Challenge? What was it? (Review) and what was our reminder? Don’t be Dipsychos!

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We should all memorize v. 19. My 3-year-old son has it memorized, it’s so cute. If we just had this one thing down pat, wouldn’t be see such a huge change in the world? We’ve all heard we have 2 ears and one mouth so we should listen twice as much as we speak. Lehman Strauss said, “A wise man will listen to others and answer only if he is certain he has something worthwhile to say.” Now we will be dealing at length in chapter 3 about the use of our tongues, but here is addressing not so much even what we are saying, but just that we are saying too much! And why? Because as Proverbs 10:19 says, ¹⁹ When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.” James knows that the bottom line is we’ll never be able to control what we say until we’ve learned to control whether we say anything in the first place. Proverbs 17:27-28 says, “²⁷ A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.”

A man of knowledge uses words with restraint. That means that it’s not only about whether you are naturally a talker or a non-talker. We are to actually exercise restraint with our words. The same way that we might see a big piece of chocolate cake but exercise restraint, we might see an opportunity to blab or speak our mind or make a sharp remark or fill the silence, but we are to exercise restraint unless our words are absolutely necessary.

The purpose of talking less is that we can listen more. We as a people are terrible listeners. Have you noticed this? Do you have friends (hopefully I am not one of them), who just do not listen? I find it interesting that our shelves are full of books that help us learn how to more effectively communicate, how to use words to our advantage, how to preach and teach and write and influence with words. And I can’t remember the last book that was written on how to be a better listener. How to sit quietly and listen. How to really learn from people. And yet God’s Word says we are called to be listeners.

Interestingly, speaking and listening are connected with anger. Look back at the Proverbs 17:27-28 passage. Right in the middle of the subject of restraining words is the subject of being even-tempered. When we restrain our words we restrain our anger as well.

The connection is fairly obvious in that more times than not our anger is unleashed through words. Proverbs 15:1 says “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” If we cannot control our tongues, we cannot control our anger. And anger is a fruit of the flesh, it is sin. To just level with you, I never struggled with anger until I had children. I know that’s sad, but true. I never really get angry with Jeff, but I find myself often having to hold my tongue with my preschooler. And probably the single biggest mistake we can make as parents is disciplining or responding to our children in anger. Anger breeds anger. There’s an excellent parenting book called Heart of Anger, which takes a look at the way that our behavior can actually breed anger in our children. Sobering reality. We must be SO careful how we speak to our children. We must take anger seriously. Galatians 3:20 lists “fits of anger” as one of the works of the flesh, along with sexual immorality and sorcery! But the fruit of the spirit is self-control, both in our words and in our anger.

Some of us are more fiery by nature, so this exhortation is especially important to us. Why? Verse. 20 tells us “for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness that God requires.” Unrighteous anger never helps the cause of Christ. There is, of course righteous anger, such as Christ exhibited when he overturned the money-changing tables and cleared out those who were buying and selling sacrifices in the temple. Unfortunately, we don’t get angry about the things we should and we do get angry about what we shouldn’t. As Lehman Strauss said, “If I am angry at nothing but sin, I can be angry so as not to sin.” You know what we should get angry about? Our own sin.

When was the last time you met up with a friend and the conversation went like this: She says, “Man I’m just ticked off. I’m mad. I just cannot believe she has the audacity to do something like that. I mean, who does she think she is? Walking around like she owns the place, insisting on her own way all the time. I’ve just HAD IT. I can’t take it anymore. I’ve got to do something about it.” And you’re running along and you say, “Sorry girl but who are you talking about?” And she responds, “Myself! I’m so sick of my sin I can’t take it anymore. I gotta get serious about making some changes. I was rude to my husband and my kids and didn’t speak kindly to them this morning. Something’s gotta change!”

We need to get angry about our own sin, about social justice, about taking up the cause of the poor, the exploited, the trafficked, the weak. Get fiery about that! (I’m getting all fired up!)  And it’s of paramount importance that if we’re worked up about the sin we see in others, we first and foremost deal with the plank of sin we have in our own life first.

Therefore, because of all this, v. 21, “put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.”

Put away filthiness. Now remember James is speaking to believers. Nowhere in scripture does God call unbelievers to clean up their act before they come to Him. He’s speaking to us. Now here’s the deal with filthiness. If we see a little bit of dirt on the outside, that usually reveals an alarming amount of filth on the inside. (Coffee mug example. Show) If we find that impure speech comes out of our mouths, or just slightly filthy talk, chances are there is serious filth on the inside. Because out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks and so we need God to change us from the inside. How do we have God change us from the inside “receive with meekness the word”.

It is surprising to me how often we do not receive God’s Word with meekness, or humility. Humility is the only proper response to God’s Word. But often we sit in church and instead of accepting, we analyze. Instead of conviction there’s critique. Some of us believe that we go to church to evaluate the message. “Is it a good one?!” I find that sort of talk creeping in to the way I speak. I’ll say, Ooh that was a good message today. So am I saying that sometimes they are not good messages? All messages from God’s Word are good. So what I really mean is, Ooh that message really challenged me in a specific way today. Our words reveal our hearts, so if we set ourselves up as the judges, we will judge God’s Word instead of letting God’s word judge us.

*just a note of clarification, when it says the word that saves your souls. This good Word of God has saved our souls from eternal punishment, and continues to save our souls from damage, by sanctification. We are not continually being saved in the eternal sense, but we are being continually saved in the sense that we are being more and more made into the image of Christ.

Now, if we are receiving God’s Word with meekness and humility, what is the natural outcome? That we would obey. That we would be doers of the Word. Read vv. 22-25. James has a great illustration here. I don’t know if this has ever happened to you, but a friend was telling of a fun day when she let her 3—year-old daughter play beauty parlor on her face. Of course the lipstick went all over and eyeshadow up over her eyebrows and I think she drew freckles with some eyeliner—you get the idea. And she looked and laughed and then the phone rang and she answered and got engrossed in a conversation and then it was snacktime and then naptime and finally she got her daughter down for her nap and the doorbell rang and she had to sign for the package and the UPS man just had this huge smile on his face the whole time, and she just thought hm, what a happy guy. Of course, she’d forgotten what she looked like. It wasn’t until later when she used the restroom that she realized she still had her daughter’s special makeup on.

So reading through this illustration, and perhaps listening to that story, it might be easy to think, “How could you forget what you look like?! I mean, if you noticed something that funny, how could you forget?” Similarly, if you look at the mirror of God’s Word, and He points out something that needs changing in your life, how could you turn around and forget about it? In the story what happened? She got a phone call. All it takes is a tiny bit of distraction. I cannot tell you how many times God will show me something significant in His word, in during the sermon at church, and I’ll be cut to the heart and writing down all that God’s showing me, and then we’re dismissed and I see so-and-so or I run up and grab my kids and find out that Dutch his Bode or that Heidi fell and hit her head or whatever, and then I’m on to the next thing and outside and buckling in kids and getting snacks and reading books and doing naps, and next thing you know I’ve completely forgotten about what God so clearly spoke to me in that quiet moment at church. Ladies, it’s so easy to forget, because it’s so easy to get distracted. We live in a world that is FULL of distraction. And when we hear God’s Word and receive that conviction, but then go off and get distracted by other things without putting it into practice then we are not doers of the Word, we are hearers only. Then we are the one who looks into the law of liberty (the truth sets us free!), and perseveres, not being a hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, then a promise: Then we will be blessed in our doing.

God call us to DO his Word. Jesus told us in John 13, “If you know these things, blessed are you if you DO THEM.” (v.17). The blessing comes through obedience. Through doing. He said the same thing in Luke 11:28, “Blessed are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” James will take us even further in this idea in chapter 4 when he tells us, “Whoever knows the right things to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” V. 17. That is the sin of omission. Sin isn’t just when we do bad stuff, it’s when we don’t do the right thing we know to do. It’s when we look at the truth of God’s Word, and He shines light on the area that needs to change, then we run off and forget all about it.

Paul says the same thing in Romans 2:13, “For it is not the hearers of the law who are righteous before God, but the doers of the law who will be justified.” Again, in two weeks Joy will address more of faith and works, and no we are not justified by works, but our true faith is proven when it demonstrates itself through works. Just hearing God’s Word is not enough to save us, we believe by faith, and that faith is a faith that works. That is why James is warning us in v. 22 not to be deceiving ourselves. There are likely many professing Christians who have heard the gospel message but have not responded in obedience. Douglas Moo says, “If the true gospel, by nature, contains both saving power and summons to obedience, those who relate to only one have not truly embraced the gospel. That is why James is saying those who only hear the word are deceiving themselves. They think they have a relationship with God because they regularly attend church, go to Bible Studies, or read the Bible. But if their listening is not accompanied by obedience, their true situation before God is far different.”

That is the sad state of many who are “religious”. And speaking of religious… James speaks to that right now. vv.26-27

Here James uses the word religion/religious twice actually, which is very unusual. That word never occurs in the OT and only occurs three other times in the NT (twice in Acts and once in 1 timothy). It generally speaks of an outward religious service. Here James is saying, to those of you who have outward religion, but you do not bridle your tongue, you are deceived. This is the third time in the last 10 verses, (v.16, 22, 26). He’s exhorting over and over, Do not be deceived! And if he sees the need to reiterate this three times, there’s obviously a danger that we WILL be deceived! How?

We are deceived if we think we are religious yet do not do the things God’s asks of us. And here he outlines some of what that is. This is not an all-inclusive list of what God asks of us. This is not prescriptive but rather descriptive. James is simply describing to us what it looks like when one has faith that works—a trust in God that is demonstrated through the way He lives. And he highlights three areas:

1. Again, the tongue. Godly speech is a description of one whose religion is true. We will not get into this now because Joy will cover it at length in chapter 3. But ladies, if we call ourselves Christians yet we engage in gossip, slander, filthy talk, let us not be deceived. “I warn you, as I warned you before, that whose who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God” (Galatians 5:21). We must take this seriously. Jesus said by our words we will be justified and by our words we will be condemned. (Matthew 12:37). The context of that is simply Jesus saying that a tree is known by its fruit. We are not justified by our fruit, but our fruit simply proves what we really are inside. If we are a new creation, we will reflect that new nature by the fruit of the Spirit. If we are not a new creation, we will reflect the fruit of the flesh.
2. Secondly, Social Concern is a description of one whose religion is true. Throughout the entirety of Scripture, cover to cover, you will see a heavy theme which is God’s concern for the orphan and the widow. The poor. Psalm 68:5 tells us that God is the Father to the fatherless and Protector of the widows. In Isaiah 1:17 God speaks through the prophet Isaiah and says, “Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow’s cause.” If we EVER divorce true faith, belief, and right doctrine from pursuing social justice, from comforting the poor, the sick, the broken, the lonely. If we cease pursuing this part of the gospel, we are deceived. This is the hole in our gospel. The nation of Israel was guilty of the same thing. They did all their religious deeds, and this is what God says of their fasting: “Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen; to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke? Is it not to share your food with the hungry and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter—when you see the naked, to clothe him, and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood? (Isaiah 58:6-7) True Christianity always has social implications. (Matthew 25)
3. And the third description of one who’s religion is real is interesting in light of the last one. There are many secular humanitarian organizations who do great things for social justice. However, God calls us to social justice and moral purity. There is a world system out there that is absolutely opposed to God. Christians should be the most humble, godly, pure, and socially active people on the planet. That’s what happens when the truth of God’s Word gets hold of our hearts. When we look in the mirror of God’s Word don’t turn away and get distracted, but instead do what He says. That’s when our faith really works.